Next year in the month of May I will be turning thirty. I’m almost finished the earliest part of my adulthood. I feel like my life has been a typical coming of age novel. Love loss, romantic, familial. I’ve made some really bad choices and some life altering ones. I know lots of people who dread turning 30 or 40, in all honesty I like getting older. I feel each year like a better version of myself. Even when I’ve made the wrong choices I see the person I’m becoming and the direction I’ve chosen, and I’m happy.
That’s the ultimate goal of life is it not? To be happy. So the question then becomes, what makes you happy? For me it’s really simple:
- Bubble baths
- Herbal Tea
- Kisses, lots of kisses
- Writing on my blog
- Spending time with family and friends
- Romantic Movies
- Romantic Novels
These are the top 11 things, the list can go on longer if I had the time to sit here and tell you my life story.
What I see clearly is that I’ve arrived at a crucial turning point in my life path. I know what I want and know what I have to do to get those things. Now is the part where I take action. And I smile because for once, I’m taking my own advice.
And to end here is a list from Glamour magazine of things you should have and should know by the time you are 30.
1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.
2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.
3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.
4. A purse, a suitcase and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.
5. A youth you’re content to move beyond.
6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.
7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age—and some money set aside to help fund it.
8. An e-mail address, a voice mailbox and a bank account—all of which nobody has access to but you.
9. A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded.
10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.
11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill and a black lace bra.
12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.
13. The belief that you deserve it.
14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30.
15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship and all those other facets of life that do get better.
1. How to fall in love without losing yourself.
2. How you feel about having kids.
3. How to quit a job, break up with a partner and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.
4. When to try harder and when to walk away.
5. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next.
6. The names of: the secretary of state, your great-grandmother and the best tailor in town.
7. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to.
8. How to take control of your own birthday.
9. That you can’t change the length of your calves, the width of your hips or the nature of your parents.
10. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over.
11. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love.
12. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs or not flossing for very long.
13. Who you can trust, who you can’t and why you shouldn’t take it personally.
14. Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault.
15. Why they say life begins at 30.
- Vanessa Vallozzi